Why Dating Outside the Faith is Illogical


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Been reading … a lot about this topic and here are THREE (3) Links i totally Highly Recommend:

http://www.boundlessline.org/2007/09/why-dating-outs.html

http://www.boundless.org/2005/articles/a0001519.cfm

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# 1

Why Dating Outside the Faith is Illogical
by Suzanne Hadley on 09/17/2007 at 2:45 PM

I’ve wondered about this myself. In the end, how could a person be at peace in a relationship where he or she fears for his or her partner’s eternal soul? So what is driving our tendency to even consider dating outside the fold? The article identifies one of the reasons — desperation:

I’m sure more than a few single women out there can relate. And yet, such relationships fall way short of God’s best. In her recent article “Same-Lord Relationships,” Carolyn McCulley considers the temptation to date those who don’t share your faith — and how it can get you way off-track. She offers this warning:

The moral of the story is never underestimate the negative influence of an unbelieving spouse. God is infinitely wiser than we are and His command to only marry (and by inference, only date) other believers is for both our benefit and His glory.

Whether portrayed on a sitcom or served up in Scripture as a cautionary tale, dating an unbeliever just doesn’t make sense.

HT: Justin Taylor

Source: http://www.boundlessline.org/2007/09/why-dating-outs.html

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# 2

Same-Lord Relationships
by Carolyn McCulley

Okay, but some would say dating is not the same thing as marrying. On the surface, this is true but it’s a facile argument. Even dating is not comparable when two different belief systems are involved. One cannot assume that nonbelievers have the same goals in romantic relationships as believers. The biblical mandate for sexual fidelity within marriage and chastity for the unmarried is a foreign system for nonbelievers. It’s not the norm to reserve sex for marriage. It’s not even the norm to get married. So for a believer to date an unbeliever is to try to find an intersection between two widely diverging practices and lifestyles. It is rarely attempted without serious compromise in important areas such as sexual purity, accountability, confession of sin, and fellowship in the local church.

Source: http://www.boundless.org/2005/articles/a0001519.cfm

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# 3

A Match Made on Earth
When Christians date outside the fold.

Lee Strobel, formerly a teaching pastor at Saddleback Church in Southern California and the author of “Surviving a Spiritual Mismatch in Marriage,” tells people that “conjugal evangelism” doesn’t work. “If you’re feeling like if I just marry this person, I’ll be able to influence him toward God, it’s self-deception.” He notes that “the nonbeliever is more likely to pull the Christian away from his faith.”

Source: http://opinionjournal.com/taste/?id=110010601